Boundary setting can be difficult; particularly for those of us who have people pleasing and peace-keeping tendencies. Here are a few thoughts that may help: Before responding, ask yourself: “What are my intentions? How will I likely feel if I say yes/no?” Consider that resentment…
The quality of our relationships has a profound influence on our physical health, mental health, longevity, and wellbeing. As humans we have evolved to regulate, connect, and survive within relationships, not apart from them. Our cooperation with and dependence on others has always been essential…
“You can relate to yourself with both accountability and gentleness. In fact you must.” Dr. Alexandra Solomon Self-compassion is an essential ingredient for change, as it allows us to step outside of the common pattern of vacillating between self-condemnation and over-indulgence to see oneself clearly.…
Our weaknesses are simply our overplayed strengths. Embrace them. My mom would remind me of this perspective growing up, and it transformed the way I viewed my own challenges, weaknesses and flaws, and the way I viewed others. It helped me reframe my sensitivity from…
It can be hard to know what to say when someone shares something difficult with you. Our natural urge to help, fix, protect (ourselves and others) kicks in. Remember that offering presence is key, and there is really no ‘fixing.’ Just our open heart, our…
